The silent majority
These words are always and used when it comes to the relatives, life companions, spouses, close caregivers or children of alcoholics. (Where the word co-alcoholism is outdated and could even create the suspicion that spouse himself had a problem). It is a clear fact that these people suffer from the addictive disorder of their partner’s alcohol sometimes more than the alcoholic himself who does not even recognize the heap of rubble in front of him.
No one gets sick without the participation of a very specific environment. Symptom carrier as well as co-dependent (co = accomplice) condition and fit like the key to the lock. Both are equally disturbed and learn only about their disturbed. They are doing everything they can to keep their system going, no matter how miserable, because that’s what they think is their life.
Dependent sufferers such as co-dependent, disturbed as co-disturbed are like Hehler and Stehler. Only when one of them “flies” can it come to a change (healing, recovery) of the other.
What is co-dependency?
Co-dependency has been a new term in the environment of an alcohol or drug addict for many years, generally describing the condition in which the partner of an addicted person is. Thus, every person can become addicted to co-dependence, regardless of age, gender, social status, level of knowledge, etc. Many other addictions can also cause co-dependency.
If you “dissect” the word co-dependency, the words “co” and “dependency” will remain. If one uses the word “with” for the word “Co”, then the word “Mitabhängigkeit” comes up and describes this behavior a little better. With a dependency, we denote a state of no longer getting rid of an addictive substance or substance addict.
It is a disease!
It is important to emphasize that what we call co-dependency is, in fact, a disease that occurs in many forms and results from a disease process that is closely linked to the social process.
Since we have not talked about co-dependency until not too long ago, we do not yet have a comprehensive theory of this new concept. The special thing about it is that it was coined by those affected themselves, i. from people who are, or are, admittedly self-co-addicts – not professionals who have a purely theoretical interest in the disease.
Our knowledge of the course of co-dependency is used almost exclusively in the field of addiction, in connection with the addiction of alcohol. It was also recognized that the risk of relapse was much greater among the alcoholics, who returned to an untreated family. Namely, such a family further favors the search by finding excuses for the addict so as not to have to give up their own co-dependency. Therefore, search experts also work with families to promote the recovery of the addicted person.
Therapy for the affected family
The families were therefore fully informed about alcoholism and pointed out that they themselves are in need of treatment. – yes, be sick. How her illness was and how to treat her, however, remained a book with seven seals.
Like any disease, it has a beginning (the point at which the person no longer masters his or her life – health, mental or emotional), a predictable course (the slowly progressing emotional, physical, psychological and mental decline) and – if not treated properly will – a foreseeable end (often death).
We know today that co-dependence causes physical discomfort, e.g. Diseases of the gastrointestinal tract, ulcers, high blood pressure, and even cancer. Often, co-addicts die before the addict.
This finding in the field of addiction treatment has led to the recognition of co-dependency as a serious problem and as a disease with its own symptoms.